My parent's think we are not ready; it is too much responsibility and I should not adopt an older child because I could never "heal his wounds", and the idea of adoption is great, just not for me.
I'm not sure how to feel about all of their opinions. Do I agree with a few of them? Sure, I do to an extent, but I am 1,000% sure the process is scary for everyone. I am 1,000% sure things go wrong with every adoption. Not to pat myself on the back, but I am a strong individual. I have goals, dreams and I have been fighting to reach each of them. I have been on my own for some time now and I know in my heart we can do this. I know in my heart, Wetherby is our son.
I do not feel that being a Mother to this boy means I am there to "heal his wounds". I am there to protect him, now, and to provide a great future to him. I wish I could change the heartbreak he has been through, but I can't. I can give him happy moments and be there to console him when the time is right. That is our mission.
Hang in there Hope. I have a friend that adopted a three year old from Lithuania, she said she keeps in mind that it is not "you against this child, it's you against this child's history." It's a shame you don't have the support of your family because it's not supposed to be "you against your family." Just know you have people praying for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lea Ann. I appreciate your kind words. Blessings to your family and friend as well.
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